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If you do what your Irish Mammy says, you will always find your way home. Day 1: The Inward Journey: Finding the real me?



I believe, every journey begins with a single step and this step is more enjoyable when it is shared with a friend.

It would be a great honor if you allowed me to be your travelling companion.  In the beginning, evaluation of self can be frightening. I will be there for you out here in cyberspace every Wednesday, encouraging you to celebrate who you are. There is no one quite like you, anywhere in the world. Not just your quirks and failings but your gifts as well.

Together, we will find ways that will help you to discover your own potential as well as considering the beliefs that are harmful to your health.We will begin by  looking  at the inner dialogue that chatters consistently inside the mind.This internal babbling is like a black, rather than a white noise.

Note to self

You know, what white noise is? Right?

One of the therapists in the building where I work has this little silver machine that emulates the sound of the sea. This in therapeutic circles is known as white noise, the sounds of which are really nice and relaxing. As my friend Cathy says ‘I Love the sea, me’. Anyway, you get my drift, the sound of waves and sea gulls have a comforting and calming effect on your nervous system.

Unfortunately black noise has the opposite effect to white noise. Black noise has a distressing effect.  You know all the negative messages we give ourselves like I’m not good enough, and the rest of that crap.  Black noise literally drains  the life energy from our souls. Black noise incapacitates  our ability to find peace, contentment and happiness.

Right now, we will  stop this sabotage. Today, on Day 1 of the inner journey finding the real me, we will identify the black noise in our lives and obliterate it into oblivion.

We will begin with a bit of therapeutic art work, in other words draw a stick man with voice balloons .

The little stick man will allow us to gently look at all the negative mental messages we give ourselves.

I hope you will not find this exercise too demanding. I want to stress that it is only a stepping stone on the way towards health and well-being. Don’t forget to allow time for the breathing and relaxation techniques given at the end of this post.

OK so here goes

  • First, draw your picture of a stick body with voice balloons.
  • In each balloon, write down any negative beliefs you may have, or heard, about yourself.
  • One way of doing this is to imagine yourself in the past in a situation in which you felt uncomfortable. What were you doing? What feelings are emerging? What can you hear yourself saying?
  • Record these messages on a piece of paper and when you are ready, place them in the balloons around the stick figure.

When you have finished, stand back and look at your creation without analyzing or judging and with great tenderness  for self.

Allow your mind to recover by starting the following breathing exercise.

  • Bring your attention to the rise and fall of your chest as you breathe in and out.
  • Slow your breathing down by inhaling deeply to the count of 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and 10.
  • Then exhale noisily through your mouth, sighing deeply.
  • Continue to breathe in through your noise and out through your mouth for 10 breath.
  • Return to normal breathing in and out through your nose allowing your mind to settle on the rise and fall of your chest.
  • Imagine that you are breathing in good energy and light which is soothing and healing and with every exhalation, you are letting go of the tension and stress caused by the black noise.
  • Continue breathing until you feel the exhaustive energy seep out of your body.

Then, when you are ready softly and  gently through half closed eyes gaze at your stick man again.

Imagine that you have been given an angel body. You are flying above, looking down at yourself. You are full of compassion  for the body that is burdened with black nose.

What messages have you got for the person who drew the stick finger?

Listen carefully.

Often messages of Love are whispered so softly you have to really concentrate on straining your sense to hear.

Note to self

A group of men lay huddled together petrified and full of self-loathing. They had abandoned their guru to a brutal, humiliating and public execution. They were terrified that the same fate awaited them.

If they could have drafted the Stick Figure that you have just done, I guess it would have been pretty appalling.

Then, ‘The Advocate’ came bearing gifts of courage, knowledge wonder and awe, right judgement, wisdom and understanding and the ability to communicate  to others, in any language.

 Their Advocate came with fire.



Ours will come as a whisper that can only be heard in silence.

Which brings us onto Day 2: The Inward Journey: Finding silence?



If you do what your Irish Mammy says, you will always find your way home.


O K so here’s the thing.

I have had an epiphany after Pentecost Sunday.

I am not returning to Angkor Wat for some time.

Instead, every Wednesday- starting tomorrow, I  will share some wonderful ancient Irish wisdom that has been passed down through the ages so that  you will find your way home to health and wellbeing, no matter what obstacles life mat throw.

Note to self

That’s me in the photo with my ‘family’ of dolls.

Ever since I can remember I was seeking to comprehend  the purpose of life’s journey.

This life long search has  lead me here today, writing this blog to you.

I hope you will share this post and help others to find their way home.

How can I explain to you what this day means to me?


How can I explain to you what this day means to me?


It is beyond me.

Perhaps when I return to my research on Angkor Watt it will flow.

As you know the aim of this blog is to find the miraculous in all things, those of you who have travelled with me will know that I am constantly searching and trying to find similarities rather than differences in all religions. I am neither a theologian nor a scholar and like my mother before me I want to understand.

And yet here it is, the ultimate gifts of knowledge, wisdom and understanding are mine for the taking. To use wisely, without fear and with a deep sense of gratitude. To share with you all in a sense of wonder and awe.

If I can believe, surrender of my ego and humbly accept what is offered to me on this day of days; Pentecost Sunday.

Note to self

A well there you have it, on Pentecost Sunday the Advocate came to the apostles of Jesus and bestowed on them the gifts of the Holy Spirit enhancing  wisdom and a deep understanding of  life .

And, it is   promised this self-same Spirit will come to you and me as well. All we have to do is ask.

 As the Good Book says

Something appeared to them that seemed like tongues of fire; these  separated and came to rest on the head of each of them. They were all filled with Holy Spirit and began to speak foreign languages ’ (Acts 2:1)

The seven gifts of the Holy Spirit include



Right Judgement,




Wonder and Awe

Gosh, it is  mind blowing when you think about it.

I mean who wouldn’t want these gifts, right?

Receiving  them  sure would enhance this blog!! 

As I said before all I  have to do is,  believe and surrender to the message of Love  that was given to us by Jesus Christ  over 2000 years ago

 And perhaps I should not worry to much about the institution which drives Catholic Church .




Good Morning Ireland: We have been busy. Emotions were running high. Now it is time to Relax and Enjoy.


Below are a few simple exercises that I learned on my travels to India. They help to shut down the chattering mind, caffeine and sugar cravings, insomnia and indigestion. This happens when the sun energy is over extended and the moon energy is depleted.

Before we begin our sun and moon breathing exercise, let me add that most Yogi’s believe breathing through right nostril stimulates sun energy which warms the body by stimulating the digestive system to release nutrients necessary for activity and movement.

Alternatively, breathing through left nostril activates the cool energy of the moon which is needed for contemplation,meditation and relaxation.

The Exercise

  • Sit in an upright comfortable sitting position. As far as possible, try and keep your spine straight and your shoulders relaxed but do not force your body in any way.
  • Start the Moon Breathing by placing your right index finger on right nostril, thumb facing out and breathe in through left nostril. Do this 5 times.
  • Then change to Sun Breathing by placing your right index finger on left nostril, thumb facing down and breathe in through right nostril .Do this 5 times
  • Next, Balance the Sun and Moon breathing by placing your right index finger on right nostril, thumb facing out and breathe in through left nostril.
  • Then, place your thumb on right nostril and right index finger on left nostril and breathe in through right nostril.
  • Next, place thumb on right nostril and breathe in through left nostril following with right index finger on left nostril breathing in through right nostril. Do this 5 times.

Note to self

It sounds more complicated than it actually is.

Try it.

 It Works

And, it is a very simple way to energise the body and shut down the over active mind.

In the west we are more inclined to breathe through the right nostril which means that we don’t chill enough!! Check it out for yourself.

I did and ooops.

But hay, today is a new day in a brand new Ireland. Hurrah!!!





According to My Irish Mother, Christina Mc Garvey, Oatmeal Bath reduce cholesterol, strengthens the heart, reduces stress and help provide a good night’s sleep

Photo: Christina and Willie O Reilly


My mother, Christina Mc Garvey was a passionate, fun- loving complex, intelligent woman, who lived from the 1930’s until the 1980’s.

She was born way before her time.

When my father first saw her, he was smitten by her clever mind and sharp wit.

She had just graduated with a degree in Pharmacy from the National University of Ireland, a thing uncommon for women in the 1930’s. She in turn loved the steady country ways of my father and traveled with him at every opportunity to his home in Dunmore house where Auntie Mother Mary would serve hot home-made griddle bread.

My mother’s contribution to healing ways of Irish Mothers, was very different than my aunts. She wanted to understand the reason behind all things. ‘Vitamin B’ she would say ‘is good anti- stress vitamin and Oatmeal Baths will help you sleep at night’

She said on several occasions  that I had an inquiring mind  like her. And I ,being the youngest child I did not like this analogy one bit.

Now that I am older I realise the truth and wisdom in her words. I too want to understand the purpose  behind all things. This curious mind of mine has led to my collection of remedies and  cures, which I am delighted to share with you including the cure attributed to the famous  Oat Meal Bath.

So here goes, don’t be put off by the wording, remember my mother was a pharmacist and her medical background infiltrated the remedies and cures, one of which is listed below.

Oatmeal Baths.


  • Put about two cup of pinhead oats in a piece of muslin. Alternatively, you can make a little bag to hold the oats with the bottom/shoe end of an old pair of tights.
  • Place the muslin bag under the running water until you have a full bath of soft silky milky warm water.
  • Soak, relax and enjoy.

Oats are rich in  B vitamins and minerals particularly zinc, manganese and that is why. it is regarded as the ‘silent healer’.

They are also  are high in fiber, which has a soothing effect on the digestive system; reduces cholesterol and strengthens the heart. Also, due to the high levels of  vitamin B  Oat baths are often recommended for the treatment of stress anxiety and depression.

Note to self

These  baths are also great for sunburn, dermatitis, nappy rash as well.


Please note that above suggestions in this blog which includes extracts taken from my book, The Irish Mothers Guide to Health and Well-being, (a work in progress ); are strictly for guideline proposes only.

Please check with your GP if you are worried in any way whatsoever.

Final Note to self

Stay tuned for more remedies and cures over the next two weeks.


Auntie Mother Mary a small round Irish woman with a big heart, hardworking hands, says ‘Everyone has something to offer.


Photo Auntie Mother Mary and My Mother Christina Mc Garvey

Auntie Mother Mary a small round woman with a big heart, hardworking hands, says ‘Everyone has something to offer’.

‘Even the smile of a new-born baby can soften the hardest of hearts’. I can hear her now as she chuckles, gently reminding me that I am, you are, each of us have a unique special gifts. ‘Experiencing a lack’, she would add, ‘whatever form it takes, teaches us to be sensitive to others’. ‘It is certainly not a necessary component for learning, but life’s difficulties have a way of making us look beyond ourselves to the bigger picture and the meaning of life.’

If I was ever feeling isolated and lonely, she would take my hand, tell me to close my eyes and take a big deep breath and decide which of the following I would do just for that day

  • Start each day with a firm resolve to focus on the present moment, if only for ten minutes each day.
  • When you meet someone you already know, pretend to yourself that you are meeting that person for the first time.
  • Be curious — you are learning a new way of relating to people. Wait and watch what happens; soon you will be surviving negativity with the best of them.

Note to self

Sometimes it just takes a moment, a kind word or a gesture to start the day afresh.

Journey by Michelle W. Tell us about a journey — whether a physical trip you took, or an emotional one.

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Journey.”


by Michelle W.

Tell us about a journey — whether a physical trip you took, or an emotional one.

In Response to Michelle W Prompt I want to share  my visit To Sri Aurobindo’s ashram in India with you.


Two years ago I embarked on a trip of a lifetime in search of the Holy Grail accompanied by a group of men and women most of whom I had never met before. And like many seekers before me, I chose India to help me find the miraculous in all things.

I was forewarned that once I arrived in India I would be hit by the stench of human life and waste products of the living

But this was not true for me, it was the flowers, smiling faces and ornate trolleys carrying sweet coffee. Strange that you only see what you want to and I wanted coffee when I arrived in Chennai Airport. At first I was afraid. The horror stories of food poisoning ringing in my ears. The intoxicating whiff of boiling milk, coffee beans and sugar cane seduced me, as my hand reached out tentatively for the hot tin cup. I inhaled the sweet aroma of the bubbling brown liquid and slurped noisily, avoiding sides of the implement that contained my nectar of the Gods.

O My Goodness… it was absolutely, Yummy!!!

We traveled by bus to Pondicherry and on to Sri Aurobindo Ashram .

Sri Aurobindo was the first political leader to publicly demand complete independence for India. He was arrested in May 1908 and acquitted in 1909.  His yearlong confinement in prison was enhanced by many momentous spiritual experiences. On his release from prison he headed to Pondicherry. His mission was to explore ways for mankind’s liberation from its bondage to ignorance through spiritual means. During his forty years in Pondicherry, Sri Aurobindo devoted himself to the practice of Yoga and the development of what he called Integral Yoga.

Note to self

As far as I could make out at the time, Integral Yoga is aimed at transforming  consciousness. For me,

 it was all bit up in the air. As far as I could comprehend the main concepts oscillated around the idea of  total freedom from illness and the possibility physical immortality through the practice of Integral Yoga.

Thus I decided just  to write about  the historical facts surrounding  Sri Aurobindo and The Mother.

Sri Aurobindo

Sri Aurobindo was born on 15th August in 1872 in Kolkata.

He studied in the Loretto Convent in Darjeeling until 1879 when he went with his parents to England.

He was 7 years old.

He spent the next 14 years studying in Manchester London and Cambridge before returning to India in 1893 to take up work as a professor at the Maharaja’s college in Vadodara.

In 1901 he married Mrinalini Devi, in Kolkata.

In 1906 Sri Auribindo moved to Kolkata and became involved in Indian Nationalism which eventually after a year’s internment led to a spiritual evolution in his thinking, obtaining freedom from all kinds of bondage through Yogi Practise

The Mother

The Mother otherwise known as Mirra Alfasssa was born in Paris on 21st February 1878. Conscious of her spiritual mission on earth even as a child The Mother was guided by a Guru in one in her visions that she called Krishna.

When she met Sri Auribindo in 1914 she at once recognised him as the Krishna of her dreams! So she felt that she had to stay with Sri Aurobindo, which she finally succeeded in doing in 1920 – that’s six years later, during that time she travelled to Japan and divorced her husband! .

She worked with Sri Aurobindo from 1920 until he went into seclusion to practice Yoga in 1926.

And, 1926 it was   The Mother who took over Sri Aurobindo disciples and founded the Sri Aurobindo Ashram which   is still located in the eastern part of Pundicherry today.

The Ashram’ has grown under ‘The Mothers’ guidance from a small group of two dozen disciples into a large diversified community around of 1500 members. Including the students of Education and the devotees who live nearby, the community as a whole consist of several thousand

Ashramites live and work in large numbers buildings spread throughout the area. The focus of community life is the main building simply called ‘The Ashram’ which consists of an interconnected block of houses including those which Sri Aurobindo and ‘The Mother ‘dwelt for most of their lives.

At the centre of the Ashram under a tree-shaded courtyard lies Samadi, a white marble shrine where the bodies of Sri Aurobindo and the Mother are laid to rest

The mothers symbol.


 I took this photograph of mother symbol from  stone in Auroville.

 The Central circle represents the Divine Consciousness.

The four petals represent the four powers of the mother

The twelve petals represent the twelve powers of the mother manifested for her work

Note to self

We were not allowed to bring in cameras to Sri Aurobindo’s ashram so no photos – sorry.

To be honest at this stage of our trip I was a bit shell shocked! The court yard was pretty and many Indians were strewn over the white Marble shrine praying – the significance of which swept over me at that time. Many were meditating in the court yard.

Our spiritual leader/ Guru  Fr Korko Moses  beckoned us joined the meditators which we did for a few moments.

 I bought 2 books in the bookshop they look really interesting

1 Integral Healing: Compiled from the Works of Sri Aurobinda and The Mother. ISBN.978817058-774-3

2 Sri Aurobindo:The Mother .ISBN 978-81-7058-575-6 Published by Sri Aurobindo Ashram Publications Department Pondicherry 605002 


Note to self at that time was as follows…..

Not much meditating done 

Its all theory at this stage but I’m not complaining

The Holy Grail will not happen by itself

I go to bed exhausted and happy

What a buzz !!

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