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Morning Children! Its your Irish Mammy here, wondering how I can be here for you on this early Monday morning when I am not physically present

IMG_1099Thich Nhat Hanh( 2013) in his book The Art of Communicating notes that the 1st and most important declaration of Love, is to be therefor someone .Nothing he adds, is more important than your presence and we do not even have to say anything all we have to do, is to be there fully present in the moment as you repeat the  mantra  silently to self’ I am here for you’  (page 75).

These  words of the holy man Thich Nhat  Hanh  echoed in my sleep during  the night and I wondered if I can as your Irish Mammy, be truly present for you as you read this post?

Do my moments of sharing  cheer you up at the start of a working week?

It was my intention at the start of my journey into the miraculous two years ago, to help you  to come home to your true self. Then in July this year the Irish Mammy appeared and I started blogging about her. Perhaps it was to do with our wet summer and her appearance was like a ray of sunlight in an endless stream of wet  summer days. I sense   that  the blogs from  Mammy are not my own, they evolve during my slumber and flow onto the page on Monday morning, bumps, errors and all. The truth of the matter is that it is a wonderful experience for me as I imagine you reading this Monday morning post.

The idea of  launching a separate blog for The Irish Mammy is now on the cards. I believe she is, you are and I am worth it. So all comments and suggestions are welcome.

I have loads of old remedies and cures as well as tips on mindfulness, healthy living and reflexology from my experience of working with groups over the years and am more than delighted to share them all with you. Mammy might have other ideas however we will just have to wait and see.

Note to self

In the meantime be well my friends.

Thank you for reading this post and have a great week



Your Irish Mammy want’s to know what have you done with your life? What kind of a question is that on a dark Monday morning?

photo (2)Na it’s not going to be depressing, judgmental or even ‘preachy’.

Quite honestly I hate that stuff even though, if I am not careful I can preach sometimes ,which is hilarious when you consider that I hate to receive unsolicited advice, especially when I am having a bad day.

That is the thing about advice, no one can live our lives for us. This can be difficult for family and friends when it appears to them that we are traveling on a path that they do not approve of.

And yet  I can- despite my best efforts, be judgmental at times. My mother bless her, was not.

She used to say that life’s lessons need to be hard as nothing is learned at a cocktail party.

Wise woman, my mother.

She also had a wonderful ‘ To Do‘ list which went something like this…..

  • Drink plenty of water and reduce tea, coffee, sugar and meat as much as possible.
  • Eat plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables-preferably grown locally.
  • Get out into the fresh air and go for brisk walks.
  • Start practising your smile, try it out on strangers and watch what happens!!!
  • Go to funny movies/shows and laugh out loud.
  • Never forget help is at hand in the form of a friendly ear, remembering to choose wisely who you share your thoughts with.
  • Never underestimate the power of prayer whomsoever you conceive your God to be.
  • Take plenty of warm oat baths, rest and get as much sleep as possible.

So on this Monday the next time someone asks you what have you done with your life. Just smile and say’As far as possible you avoid negative people and when you do engage with them you protect yourself in a dome of light. 

Note to self

Let’s all protect ourselves in a dome of golden light my friends, today more than ever as we live in a time of great uncertainty.

Hugs and love to you all and to our troubled world.

Your own  Irish Mammy,




Characteristic Behaviors of Highly Creative People – Carolyn Gregoire @ The Huffington Post – 11-15-15

To all you creative artists out there this is well worth a read.

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Creativity works in mysterious and often paradoxical ways. Creative thinking is a stable, defining characteristic in some personalities, but it may also change based on situation and context. Inspiration and ideas often arise seemingly out of nowhere and then fail to show up when we most need them, and creative thinking requires complex cognition yet is completely distinct from the thinking process. 

Neuroscience paints a complicated picture of creativity. As scientists now understand it, creativity is far more complex than the right-left brain distinction would have us think (the theory being that left brain = rational and analytical, right brain = creative and emotional). In fact, creativity is thought to involve a number of cognitive processes, neural pathways and emotions, and we still don’t have the full picture of how the imaginative mind works. 

And psychologically speaking, creative personality types are difficult to pin down, largely…

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Good Morning Children! Happy Monday from your Irish Mammy!

unnamedIt may be wet dark and cold outside and the world news makes for is forbidding reading. In times like these it is good to let the Love shine brightly  from your heart to the all the people surrounding you this day.

My mother believed that when the ‘going gets tough, the tough get going’ and one way to do this is to exchange what she liked to call Heart Warming Gifts which she added, are expressions of feelings  of love and gratitude for life. Nothing fancy or major is needed, just a  simple thank-you letter or an unexpected present probably home-made or picked from a garden. Presents of this nature are appreciated most, because they do not exceed expectation, nor do they compromise the receiver in any way.

Try it out, and be prepared to be amazed about just how good you will feel. Remember to keep the present small, you are not looking for something in return nor do you expect a thank you back, you are merely expressing a random act of kindness nothing more and nothing less.

Note to self

Have a great Monday you guys,

Be safe and share the love, the world needs it.

blessings and hugs to you this day 





Hi guys, feeling very humble indeed on this wet Monday Morning.

IMG_0855You are not listening to me when….

You do not care about me

You say you understand before you know me well enough

You have an answer for my problem before I’ve finished telling you what my problem is.


You cut me off before I’ve finished speaking

You find me boring and don’t tell me

You feel critical of my grammar, vocabulary or accent

You are dying to tell me something

You tell me about your experience making mine seem unimportant

You are communicating with someone else in the room

You refuse my thanks saying you  haven’t done anything.


You ARE listening when…..

You come quietly into my private world and allow me to be me

You really try to understand me even when I am not making much sense

You grasp my point of view even when it goes against your own sincere convictions

You realise the time I have taken from you has left you  a bit tired and a bit drained.


You allow me the dignity of making my own decisions, even though you think they may be wrong

You don’t take my problem from me, but allow me to deal with it in my own way

You hold back your desire to give good advice when you sense I am not ready for it

You give me enough room to discover for myself what is going on.


You accept my gift of gratitude by saying how good it makes you feel to know that you’ve been helpful.


Note to self


When I first read this I shivered,.

With all the best intentions in the world I do not  always listen .

Forgive my transgressions 


Emotional Reflexology


Have you ever observed how clients can become emotional during or after a reflexology?

If your answer to this question is yes I am sure you will agree with me when I say that it is important to have the necessary knowledge and skills to treat emotional issues that can arise during a reflexology session.

Our code of ethics highlights that we as reflexologists, make wholistic evaluations (No3; 2010) considering the spiritual, psychological as well as the physical causes of ill health.  This makes us different from other therapists like psychiatry or psychology, which are more unilateral in their approach and there is still a stigma attached to attending these therapists.   ( whereas reflexology is seen as non-invasive and non-threatening.

I work in the granary therapy centre which I share with several psychotherapists and they smile when they see me making the herbal tea. Making tea is not in ‘their brief’ as part of the recovery process. I see pampering as the first step towards recovery towards health and wellbeing. The second component is the role of the reflexologist. I see it as one of service rather than advisor. We sit at the feet of the person and often work in silence. Such a therapeutic caring environment allow the client to feel safe and secure enough to share what is really bothering him or to cry for an unknown reason.

Karol K Truman in her book Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. Olympus Publishing 😦 2007) suggests that the root of all illness lies in unexpressed emotions. In chapter 17(pp 182- 218) she has a list of over 1100 negative feelings and their opposite, starting with Abandonment and ending with Worry. The opposite to Abandonment being cherished and cared for and the opposite to Worry being trust, reassured and calm.

She further proposes that these feeling can be processed by utilising what she calls A Script.(pp 95). Simply put it  comprises of two basic components, surrender and forgiveness. At times, she says the hurt is so deep that it is denied or cannot be articulated. Painful memories become submerged in the subconscious mind and become immersed deep within. And, the process of keeping them buried has a damaging effect on physical and psychological wellbeing.

As reflexologists we are unique in that a person coming for a treatment may be looking to ease a physical pain which as Ms Truman argues nearly always has an emotional root cause.

In the upcoming CPD course we will look at different reflexology points and reflect on what emotions we could put next to them, as well as considering certain therapeutic exercises we can give our clients to use at home.

If you would like to learn more about emotional reflexology contact Marie Therese Shelly Re: The upcoming courses available E mail

With very best wishes,

Marie Therese


Morning Guys it’s your Irish Mammy here with question for you to think about before you get out of bed!

BondHolders 2 1How old would YOU be, if you didn’t know your chronological numerical age?

Mitch Albom in his beautiful book called The Time Keeper tells a compelling fable about the first man on Earth to count time, thereby creating  the world’s first clock.The consequences of his actions makes for thought provoking reading.

Time,we measure our lives by it.  The clock is  always ticking .

And if  we allow it to happen, time will imprisoned us, define us and eventually age us.

Let us ask ourselves this morning , what is age? Is it a number of years we have lived,  or is it the measure of a person’s worth based on life experience?

When we become adults we learn to act our age and behave accordingly.

So I will say to you this Morning, don’t do it.

Every so often let go of your adult self and become  whatever age you feel and if this age is a young child all the better, time obsession will allude you

As the good book says’ unless ye become like little children you shall not enter the Kindgom of Heaven'( Matthew 13:8)


Have a great one you guys

Hugs and love


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