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Love this poem by Wendell Berry, so full of hope and light.

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“When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.

I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.”

~Wendell Berry

This poem was given to me by a special soul friend.

It is written for sharing

Re post it  someone  today, least we forget  that  Love beats  silently underneath the noise and confusion of everyday life.

Hugs and Love

Marie Therese

Day 13: The Inward Journey: Releasing negative emotions through the medium of the written word

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‘You cannot heal a wound by saying it is not there.’(Jeremiah 6:14))

When someone hurt us in the past, or if we have done something that we are ashamed of, we may have felt compelled to keep silent. Perhaps we felt too intimidated or frightened to respond, or maybe it was impossible for us to express our feelings.

Today, let us articulate our anger through the use of writing and rewriting of negative letters. I say ‘rewriting’ because you may have to make several attempts at these letters before you actually get in touch with your feelings.

I like to call this healing process Angry Letter Exercise.

Note to self

MOMM

You can do these exercises alone however, it is good to have a listening ear of a trusted friend or qualified therapist to help you work through this process.

It is important to stress however that these letters are for your eyes only and when written you destroy them immediately.

It is such a good feeling to tear these letters in tiny pieces, bless him and burn them, saying loudly as that ‘I release you and let you go. You no longer have any hold over me.’

The blessing, burning and releasing is a vital component of the healing process.

The Process: Participating in the Angry Letter Exercise

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 Preparation

Before you begin, set a sacred space for yourself by allowing an uninterrupted hour for this exercise. Furthermore, you will need plenty of pages to write on and a fireplace or some safe place where the letters can be burnt without interference.

Have a full box of matches handy — it is terrible when you go to all the trouble of writing these letters and then cannot burn them!

The Ritual

Start your letter as you would any other with the usual greeting — for example, ‘Dear Mary’. If you are writing to yourself, address yourself in the third person.

Don’t worry about neatness, grammar or spelling It is important to express exactly how you feel, using bad language, if necessary, since this mechanism will allow the venting of angry feelings. Using the left hand helps us to get in touch with the emotional part of the brain, or vice versa, for a left-handed person.

When you have finished writing, tear the letter into tiny pieces, saying to yourself that it doesn’t have to be this way. Say something like: ‘These feelings no longer rule my life; I am in control; I release you; I release myself from the pain of the past.’

When the letters are reduced to a tiny bundle of paper, bless them with holy water or salted water and burn them. The ritual of burning and blessing is a symbol of cleansing and renewal.

Allow yourself some time to recover after doing the writing, blessing and burning. Imagine that you are breathing in energy and light and releasing stress from your body. It may be necessary to repeat this ritual on several different occasions, learning to forgive takes time and patience.

When we release anger safely in a therapeutic environment, the chances of our projecting outwards and hurting someone else is greatly reduced. When we hurt someone, we need forgiveness. Before we are ready to ask another for forgiveness, we must first forgive ourselves. Forgiveness of the self requires a deep understanding of the fragility of human weakness. When we do manage to forgive others, and ourselves we evolve into more compassionate, loving and spiritually aware human beings. In the next post I will introduce another forgiveness exercise which I refer to as a ritual, the reasons for which will become clear on the day.

Important note to self

MOMM

I will not post Irish Mammy or otherwise for another fourteen days. The reason for this is simple, time is needed for relaxation when participating in work of this nature. You have worked hard and your body needs time to recover. Thus, for the next fourteen days I would ask you to participate in the relaxation exercise below for ten minutes in the morning and evening. Trust me you will be surprised how more energetic and alive you will feel.

The Relaxation Exercises

This time like before in the other relaxation exercises, I will ask you to still your mind by focusing on the senses. And, just like we have done so often we will begin this exercise with the breathing.

  • As you focus on your breathing, say to yourself: ‘I am breathing in goodness and light, and breathing out any stress that is trapped in my body.’ Repeat this five times.
  • With your eyes closed, imagine your sight extending beyond your scope of vision, and returning back to you, refreshed.
  • Open the palms of your hands and imagine your fingers reaching to the heat and energy of the sun, and returning to you refreshed.
  • Listen to the sounds around you, and allow your ears to extend as far as the farthest whispering of the universe, returning to you refreshed.
  • Inhale the aromas that are surrounding you. Now, let your senses move out from your immediate experience to all scents of the planet, and return to you refreshed.
  • Take several deep breaths and as you do repeat the following words:

I am breathing in goodness and light, and breathing out any stress that is trapped in my body.’

Return to you day feeling refreshed and ready and to greet the joys and challenges of you day and smile. You are alive: A Miracle of Creation

Day 11: The Inward Journey: Forgiveness Heals.

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Forgiveness is defined as, ‘the process by which a person pardons and ceases to resent the trespasses or wrongful actions of another’ and I, like my mother before me, believe that forgiveness it necessary for inner healing to takes place. All of us need to recuperate from hurt to some degree or another. For some of you reading this post it may only be a minor thing; for others, a deep wound.

Haven’t we all said ‘Oh I wish I hadn’t said or ‘I wish I hadn’t done that’ and we feel embarrassed or ashamed when we think about the situation. We all have had times when we felt we were not understood. Perhaps a friend betrayed us or let us down. Possibly in our childhood a parent, sibling or teacher ridiculed or criticised us unduly. Or perhaps there was rejection and abuse. All of these incidents- whether large or small are ‘psychic sores’ which fester away in our bodies and minds. At times the hurt is so deep that it is denied or cannot be articulated. Painful memories submerged in our subconscious mind are immersed deep within. And, the process of keeping them buried has a damaging effect on physical and psychological wellbeing.

Imagine what it would be like if there was a magical eraser available to you; one that could walk back into your past and wipe away all pain and undo every wrong. Would you want this? Would you need it? Would you be willing to do whatever it takes? Would you agree with me when I say that suffering teaches us about life, but there comes a time to let it go and move on: A time to accept and forgive: A time to forgive and forget rather than remember and be sad.

You may be tempted to avoid talking about forgiveness, because the thought of ‘opening up old wounds’ can cause extreme trepidation. Yet, unresolved, unexpressed painful memories and negative feelings do not vanish into the night with our dreams: To the contrary, they become trapped in our   bodies causing us to become exhausted, sick and vulnerable. An important part of your recovery to health and energy will require you to forgive those who inflicted you with pain and to forgive yourself for your negative beliefs and subsequent actions which evolved from this dark place.

In the next  post -on Tuesday evening ( the will be no Monday morning Wake up call next week, sorry);  we will consider how certain body exercises will help the  emotions trapped in the body to be released in a non threatening way.

Note to self

MOMM

 I believe practicing forgiveness  is the most significant part of our work in this life.

I am not alone in this belief. It is even  the foundation of the Lord’s Prayer. ‘Forgive us our debts, as we forgive those who are in debt to us’ (Mathew6:9)

I love to listen to Tracey Chapman as she intones to the lyrics of her haunting  song ‘Sorry’. This song captures how difficult it can be is to practice forgiveness.

We need to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others.

We need to allow ourselves loads and loads of time to relax, mediate and practice mindfulness.

That is why I have included  a mindfulness exercise here at the end of this post.

Fixate mind into the present moment by focusing on your body

    • Start by slowing down your breathing one breath at a time.
    •  Then ‘tune into’ the listening: allow yourself to hear all sounds and then listen to stillness beyond all sound, all doing and all activity.
    • Next, draw your attention inward and listen to the beating of your heart and imagine it slowing down.

Thoughts to ponder on….

 ‘You cannot heal a wound by saying it is not there.’(Jeremiah 6:14))

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